Are You Having A Personal And Professional Quarter Life Crisis?
- Are you a recent graduate worrying about finding a job or a young professional struggling to maintain a work-life balance?
- Are you consumed by feelings of self-doubt and inadequacy, constantly comparing yourself to others?
- Do you stay up late at night worrying about your finances, job status or if and when you’ll get married and have kids?
- Do you long to have control over your life, but feel helpless to steer your own destiny?
For many of today’s recent graduates and young professionals, life can feel like a race against the clock. You probably have a thousand and one goals you want to accomplish, but feel as though you barely have enough time to complete even one. Perhaps you’re a recent graduate who spends countless days sending resumes into the endless black void known as the Internet. You might have applied to hundreds of jobs, had a few interviews, but haven’t been offered any of the positions. By now your confidence is likely zapped. You may be consumed by loneliness and long to travel back in time to college when life was so much easier. Try as you might, you may not be able to shake the feeling that you’re a failure at life. You may zealously want to prove to yourself and others that you are a capable, competent adult, but are starting to loose hope for the future.
Alternatively, you might have the job you applied to but struggle to maintain a healthy work-life balance. While you’re happy to have a job and may even really like it, work may leave you with little time to sustain your friendships, go to the gym or pursue your passions. As you’re consistently in a position of having to choose between work and a healthy personal life, you might be starting to feel frustrated with yourself for not being able to do it all.
Once you’re home from work, you might not really be home, but instead on your phone or answering emails. Afterward, you might log on to Facebook only to see countless baby and wedding photos clogging your news feed. To you it may seem like everyone else has it all – a husband, a house and a set of beautiful smiling children. Perhaps you cry yourself to sleep, worried that you’re going to be single for life or that you will die alone with your cell phone in your hand. You may desperately yearn to post your own wedding pictures one day or to broadcast the details of an exciting and glamorous career. However, you may not know how to accomplish the goals you set out for yourself.
Many People Struggle With The Quarter Life Crisis Transition
The 20s can be a challenging time. And if you sometimes feel like you’re still a child masquerading as an adult, you’re not the only 20-something who feels that way. People struggle with life transitions all the time, whether they are graduating college, getting married, experiencing parenthood or moving to a new city.
Change can be challenging, frustrating and even scary at times. And, social media only adds fuel to the fire. Many people use social media platforms to compare themselves to others, and these ongoing comparisons and feelings of lacking can contribute to depression and anxiety. However, social media is extremely misleading; rarely do you see status updates about the problems your friends are having in their marriages, the stresses of raising children or the details of someone’s most recent lay off. If you were able to truly look inside people’s lives, you would see that nearly everyone is struggling with something.
Furthermore, living in New York City as a young person can be overwhelming. When you live in a success driven-society, it is easy to compare yourself to others, feel bad about not having the right job or become a slave to your career. But, with the help of life coaching you can restore balance to your life and develop the skills you need to achieve your dreams without destroying yourself in the process.
Life Coaching Can Help You Find Fulfillment
As life coaches, we provide solution-based advice to young professionals and recent graduates who are experiencing the worries, fears and frustrations common to having a quarter life crisis. In sessions together we’ll be creating a tangible plan of action designed to help you take steps closer to living the life you want. We can provide you with real-world advice on your career, relationships and job search, as well as help you develop practical skills that can assist you both in the workplace and your personal life. By learning new skills, tools and strategies, you’ll be able to set boundaries with your boss, learn to set aside time for yourself, be more confident during interviews and achieve a proper work-life balance.
If you’re feeling isolated by your career or alone in the big city, we will encourage you to volunteer, join a sports team or take art or gym classes. These are all positive, fun and comfortable environments where you can meet new people. Alternatively, if work is consuming your life, we can help you find ways to take care of yourself emotionally, socially and physically. We can also work on increasing your confidence and self-esteem by examining and transforming any negative thoughts, emotions or perceptions. By learning to adopt activities that promote positive thinking, you can break through any self-defeating behaviors that are keeping you from advancing in your career, succeeding in your interviews or attracting a healthy, loving partner. Week by week, you can take small, manageable steps and learn something new, growing stronger, wiser and more resilient all the while.
As your life coach, our hope is that you will feel empowered to achieve your dreams and realize that your life has value, meaning and purpose, regardless of your job title or relationship status. Your life might not always take the same path as your friends’, but that’s okay because everyone has a different path in life. With the help of life coaching, you can discover a path that’s right for you – one that’s truly rewarding, satisfying and fulfilling.
Perhaps you’re ready to try life coaching but have some questions and concerns …
I don’t have enough time to go to life coaching sessions.
If your job is interfering with your ability to socialize with friends, meet a potential partner or take care of yourself by going to the gym, things aren’t going to change unless you work toward cultivating a healthy work-life balance. By meeting with a life coach, you’ll be taking a positive step in the right direction. You won’t have to come to my office, either – we can meet by phone or through Skype. If you’re in the mood for something a bit more fun, we can also do walk-and-talk therapy- a new type of therapy where we walk instead of sit in an office, or even meet for coffee.
I don’t think life coaching can help me.
Although you might not believe it, you actually have the power to control your destiny. If you commit yourself to making small improvements each week, it’s possible to make positive changes in your love life, friendships and career, which can accumulate over time and ultimately lead to success.
You Can Become A Well Balanced, Productive Adult
With the help of life coaching, you can take concrete steps toward having the career and family life that you want. Please call us at (347) 758-2985. We offer a free 15-minute phone consultation and are happy to answer any questions you have. In the meantime, feel free to visit our blog where you can research solutions specifically geared toward recent graduates and young professionals.
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